I tend to have the same attitude toward labels as you - since, as you say, it is what it is, and we can only truly take care of ourselves. Still, I was just wondering because of how much your W's email read to me like a deflection of issues - rather than an engagement of what's troubling your son. I may have just been reading into her email, however, as it's something I've gotten very accustomed to seeing from my STBX.
I'll answer the stuff about my knee and my son on my thread...so as not to hijack.
Have you already scheduled your surgery for your shoulder?
