Hi scrappy, Sorry you have found yourself here. I had the same result from my first few posts, not much of a response, but just posting as a journaling helped me a lot, and over time, by responding to other sitches Ive made a few friends that have invaluable information and advice.

You mentioned that you think that your H may think that the financial problems are your fault and that you wouldnt change, so, change! If being fiscally irresponsible is your norm, do a 180 and not only be responsible, but maybe even save some $!

I also noticed what you said about going dark. When you have kids it is harder, but you need to keep your communications ONLY about the kids, only about business. Unless of course you are informing him that you cant meet him at such and such a time because you are busy doing some wonderful, exciting mystery activity.

The fact that hes moving things along so slowly tells me something. Maybe hes not as eager as you might think. Men clam up when they feel like they are not close to their W anymore. He hasnt shut off his emotion, but he has buried it. This is especially true if he is an alcoholic and in an MLC, nothing is his fault, no one understands him, blah blah blah, other adolescent type fit throwing. Trying to defend yourself, or remind him how perfect your life was will be totally counterproductive right now, and him rejecting it will only hurt you.

What have you done to GAL, what do you have look forward to? Whats your new place like?

Before this sitch started, what were your interactions like? How long were you M, how old are your kids?

I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...