Puppy you're misunderstanding. I have told her if I see this guy I'm going to punch him out. Hell no I don't respect her affair. I respect that she thinks we should not be together. I have made it clear that I have my hope for us because I think differently. I am trying to be lovingly detached. If you think I need a 2x4 or should set up a tougher boundary, then by all means, please tell me. I am going by the case studies in DR where wives that were going to file for divorce are given their space to sit with the guilt of their own actions. I also did a 180. She had been giving me hugs before she went to her room. I told her last night, "as much as I love your hugs, I just can't feel good about them unless we're working together on our marriage." She said "well I'm only giving them because you said it made you feel better." I said, "yes, but not any more unless we're working on our marriage."
