Detachment is THE KEY. I have been working on this for the last 6 weeks, and it finally happened. The weight that has been lifted off me is unbelievable. And the sense of peace and power, yes power, is so very welcoming.
And that vacuum has hit turbodrive. The more I detach, the more my W wants to be near me, talk to me, warm up to me. Still have a long way to go, but I now know I have control of this situation.