Hmmm, well, Mary, it sure isn't going to be easy, but that doesn't mean it can't be done!
First, you know what his reaction is when you try to "talk " to him about things right now, so don't do it!
So, I think what you want to do is really focus on yourself. Make sure when he sees you, he doesn't see a desparate, nagging, B witch. Let him see a strong, self confident woman, but with compassion. And look good! (OK, it is a little shallow, but he is a man. I'm just saying.) You will have a little time while he is home to show him that you are not what he thinks you are. So, prove it. But make sure you are doing it for you.... he'll see right through any kind of acting.
Look for SMW on the boards, she will at least be able to understand your situation more than most of us.
