So - then she says, I'm doing all these things, and she wants to feel guilty because I'm putting in the energy, when she doesn't think it's going to turn out like I want it to. After last time we went through this, I might expect that she's just going to snap out of it, but that's not going to happen.
So, I said, well, that's my choice, and you don't have to feel guilty about it. Which she seemed to accept.
THEN she felt guilty about bringing it up at all, as I was in a good mood reading my book.
Next time, tell her you are putting in the energy for you, not her.
And that you can't control what she does anyway.
Then go back to your book with your good mood.
This type of behaviour can confuse the WAS. B/c it's not playing out the way they planned.
