Hey all - well now I see why Wifey says to stick to one thread. Sorry about the confusion, I just wanted to put the whining behind me. Anyway, hope this isn't more confusing, but to stick to one thread I'm going to respond here to posts from the old one.
Sandi - yeah, I'm tired, but I'm working to remedy that. I understand what you mean. But, I'm trying to make some space for myself to recover from that. W has regularly talked about how she find me attractive over the past months (not the last two weeks), but she recently said that "we have no chemestry". I think overall, need to work on the PMA and be someone that she wants to be around.
Mary - thanks for the comments and encouragement.
So - W got back from her trip Sunday, after a few hours we packed up the kids to have dinner and meet MIL, the kids are staying there a few days. MIL gave me a lot of support and love. On the drive back, W talked about some of the things like, when are we going to talk to the kids, etc. It was OK conversation. She did a lot of singing along to the radio.
So, when we got home, she mentioned a something that needed to be done - taking out the garbage I guess - when I moved to do it, she said, "You don't have to do everything!" Later, when she dropped something, I moved to pick it up, and she said "I feel like you're waiting on me hand and foot." I just said, "I was right there," but got out of the way and went to read my book.
So, a little later, she started a conversation: "So what do you think about our little arrangement?" What do you say to that? I asked if she's getting the space she needs, and she said "Yeah, kind of. But it's like nothing's changed, except that we're not sleeping together."
So I said, I have no emotional need for you to leave the house. She said "Well, yeah, you have no need for us to seperate at all, so I guess that answers my question."
So - then she says, I'm doing all these things, and she wants to feel guilty because I'm putting in the energy, when she doesn't think it's going to turn out like I want it to. After last time we went through this, I might expect that she's just going to snap out of it, but that's not going to happen.
So, I said, well, that's my choice, and you don't have to feel guilty about it. Which she seemed to accept.
THEN she felt guilty about bringing it up at all, as I was in a good mood reading my book.
