What has worked for me/Update wife said she done

[whereami]

I found this sight in June, and posted my story then. I received great advice here and from books that were recommended to me.

At the same time I was receiving all this my W was adamant on getting a D, and was told all of the stuff I'm sure most have been told before. I was also told by W that there was no way we could EVER patch things up and become a couple again. She told me she hated me couldn't, stand me, doesn't want to talk to me or see me, and for a while she was not staying at home.

There came a point that for me I was done with all of the abuse she was throwing at me. In my mind I had been trying everything from counseling, self help books, antidepressants, this website, and anything I thought could help my situation.

I also made many mistakes especially in the beginning. Just like most I begged, pleaded, pursued, and whatever else I shouldn't have done I probably did.

Don't get me wrong I by no means was a perfect husband in fact from the stories I have read on here there were many spouses here that were better partners then I was.

I had been trying to detach for a while, and couldn't figure out how to. Then after one disrespectful event after another I finally let go, and my mind was made up to get out of this abusive situation.

We went for almost a month without talking or seeing each other. I started to enjoy myself, and even went on a few dates. My wife definitely knew I was moving on.

It wasn't until she knew I had started to move on that she even seemed interested in anything that had to do with me.

She then started to call me for no reason at all, several times a day I would get texts like "just wanted to say hi". I could tell that she was having second thoughts.

Instead of jumping back into trying to save our marriage. I have decided to take it slow and not rush back into things so that i don't end up where I just came from.

I have been on several dates with my W, and have even been intimate on a few occasions. I have not let my guard down completely, and neither has she, but I'm in a better place with my relationship then I thought was possible a month ago.

I just wanted to give an update as to where my situation was and now is, and hope my story can bring some hope to others that feel their marriage can't be saved.

I'm not out of the wood by no means. I just think I'm heading down the path of reconciliation.