I am not sure how to DB when someone is in another state. Actually that could be an advantage in helping you to detach but the drawback is that he cannot see your changes.
That by no menas signifies that it is impossible to DB in this situation. I would say detaching and going dark or no contact would be obvious starting points since you said that you were pursuing etc. You say that you have been separated for 1 and 1/2 years. How have you been communicating during that time? Do you initiate? Does he? What is the pattern or dynamic like? We need a little more information to help see how you can do 180s and shake things up. If you can post a bit more on your sitch that will really help.
They are a lot of experienced DBusters on this site (I am not one) and I am sure they will weigh in. But I'll still add in my 2 cents to help get the ball rolling.
