"what 's going on between your wife and so-n-so?"

[mindfull]

Steve:

I agree w/everyone. Don't confront her until you have proof (not that you don't have enough cause...).

I want to tell you a story, only because the glimpses of your W that we get are eerily similar to a friend of mine.

OK, I had an acquaintance/friend who was married to a physician. My group of friends include a bunch of physician's wives, and were all friends w/her. I found it odd that they were friends because, around the time that I met her, and socialized with her, I thought she was stand-offish, and a bit of a b*tch. They all kept attributing it to "her medication."

Like it or not, I got to know her and her family better. Her H and kids were darling! She continued to be her above described self. This went on a few years. About two years ago (and three years into our "acquaintanceship") I started seeing her at more kids events, couples events, etc..., and she started to open up, be more genuinely warm, etc... I commented several times to our common friends that I finally get why they liked this woman so much, and realized that it just takes her longer to get to know someone. A few months after this realization, my D18 and I went to an art/dinner auction (D18 had to take my H's spot as he was home throwing up!), and we were seated w/common friends and spouses, and my acquaintance/friend and her H. We had a great night. She and her H bought a fabulous painting, dinner was great, acquaintance/friend "hired" D18 for the summer to handle their kids swimming/golf lessons driving, and all was good.

Two days later, we get the phone call. Acquaintance/Friend checked into a cheapie hotel around noon, left, picked her kids from school (my kids' school) on Monday, went home, and had their Monday night pizza/family game night. She left in the middle of the night, to be found four hours later, alone, stabbed to death, by her own hand.

Her H and common friends explained some of what led her to this point, the month following her death. Apparently she had an EA turn PA, for a brief time (during the stand-off, b*tch stage), was found out by her H, went back and forth between wanting to be home and wanting out, went on meds, and started acting "odd." (Doing weird sort of HAHAHAHA dark room sofa moments) These increased from once, to once every few weeks to weekly, and, then, she just, all of a sudden, got better (during the warm, glad I got to know her stage). Well, apparently, she had figured out how to get rid of the guilt.

Last note, I know someone who works in ER. Her H brought her in once, during the weekly "odd" moments. She was chanting. She was talking about spells, etc..

Not sure if she was listening to Godsmack!

Just my connection, and hoping you don't push her oddness aside, or think a pill will cure, and double hoping you'll check out what she's dabbling in (withcraft! ODDDDD!)