It's a little hard to seek a therapist with him. I in our home state and he is in the neighboring state for his job. (military)
Ask him if he'd be willing to work on the M. If so you are willing to do what it takes to get you and he to a therapist - because however you feel now I guarantee you have no idea how badly he is probably hurt inside if he really loved you.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
