I have been reading posts here for a while and am planning to get the DB book. but I have a question... how do you put any of this into play when the dynamics are such: He is stationed in another state and we have been apart for 1.5 years. we still have 3 more months before he transfers back home. For many reason things were very rocky before he left, but during the 1st few months we agreed to try to work things out. in the last month I have been informed that he wants a divorce and is not amicable to any type of therapy or even retrouvialle.. I tried and he decided against it. He wants me to be out of the house before he comes back and will give me till mid 2010 before he files for divorce. ( he will be in town for 3 months and then leaves again for 6) I do not want to just give up my marriage with out a fight, but as I have learned from reading your posts.. I am "fighting" a loosing battle. so how do I do anything when we are not in the same state and he gets angry and withdraws when I want to talk?? THanks for any suggestions you may have!!
M - 45 1st marriage H - 45 2nd M -T - 14 yrs M - 13 yrs S - due to job location since 1/08 B - 7/6/2009 EA revealed -9/3/2009 began 6/09 E/A end 9/09 piercing: since 10/09 long distance
