I have a female cousin (former WAW who reconciled). She's been great for insight.

She has said that it's all a distraction. I mean who wants to focus on an unhappy marriage all of the time? It seems this is one of their ways of detaching.

Me: 35
W: 31
S:9
M: 10 years
Together 13
MySitch - Ups & Downs
She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.