I know I can get through this, today is just a bad day. All because of that stupid phone call. And I am tired, that doesn't help. Anyway, I'll certainly post after I speak/text to W again, let you know what happened.
Someone posted this to me once. Be aware of HALT it makes your emotions jump out. H - hungry A - angry L - lonely T- tired
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Thanks, that makes a lot of sense. Especially the tired one. I don't get more than 5 hours most nights. And I have been both lonely and angry lately. Good thing I eat OK!
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
I just saw on W's myface page that her 20 year old niece wants to go to a country concert with her in October. She replied yes, but she had to check to see if she was free. This was posted yesterday. We always have gone to country shows together, even when we weren't getting along so great. I wonder if she'll ask me to go, or ask me to watch the boys while she goes. Used to be as soon as she found out about a show coming nearby, she would call me after already buying the tickets, and reserving a hotel room if necessary. This day just gets better and better!
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
The Facebook and MySpace pages are brutal. I have had to stop checking my wife's. It was preventing me from detaching. I hated seeing how she had so many people that she liked/got along with...knowing that I, her husband, was not part of this croud.
Just a suggestion, but I would stop checking her page. Nothing good can come from it.
Me: 35 W: 31 S:9 M: 10 years Together 13 MySitch - Ups & Downs She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.
Gotta let it go. Quit looking at her myspace page. See what it is doing to you?
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Honestly, I never even look at myface. I have a page there, but never check it. Once in a while I get an email saying something has happened on my page. Today I got an email and checked, it was just someone put a picture of me on their page. While i was on my page, I saw W had written on nieces wall, so I clicked to see. Thats it, I don't really like the myface. Funny, I signed up first and got W into it! That was some time ago, though, before the Great Sadness.
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
Same here. I signed up first. Didn't use much. Wife not has hooked with everyone she ever knew in High School! Does everyone in the world really need to know that "W is watching a movie"?????
Me: 35 W: 31 S:9 M: 10 years Together 13 MySitch - Ups & Downs She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.
Funny, right? She is on all the time. We'll be sitting in the living room watching TV. Her phone will beep, she'll pull it out and look at it and then laugh and say "(niece) is out with her new boyfriend, she is bored" and then start typing away like mad. Sheesh.
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
Funny, right? She is on all the time. We'll be sitting in the living room watching TV. Her phone will beep, she'll pull it out and look at it and then laugh and say "(niece) is out with her new boyfriend, she is bored" and then start typing away like mad. Sheesh.
Yep, my W too. Sometimes I wonder how her thumbs don't fall off from all the typing.
I have a female cousin (former WAW who reconciled). She's been great for insight.
She has said that it's all a distraction. I mean who wants to focus on an unhappy marriage all of the time? It seems this is one of their ways of detaching.
Me: 35 W: 31 S:9 M: 10 years Together 13 MySitch - Ups & Downs She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.
