OMG, doodles, I literally had to check to see if your posts were mine. I was catching up on all the happenings today and wondered, did I write this. WE ARE SO GOING THROUGH THE SAME THINGS!!! Remember my new guy. I realllly liked him. And I'm totally the same way like you - I haven't liked someone other than H in God knows how long since h and I have been together. And I'm very selective about how I'm interested in. My new guy I totally thought that this was God sending this man to break me away from H. I was so really to be through with H. New guy and I were getting close I thought. Doing lots of texting, had plans to hang out some more, and I so thought he was in to me too. Then he did the same thing, pulled back and then disappeared. I stopped contacting him, even erased his contact info so I wouldn't get tempted since he was the one to withdraw, but I was disappointed. He seemed like such an improvement from my H, that I was so intrigued. To be honest, even now I miss what never was or the possibility of what could have been. I thought in a way it was my escape route and that God saw all that I went through and was sending me a good man of my own. So, I completely feel and understand you.
My advice, go with the flow. This guy will do wonders for you mental health and confidence. So even though my new guy was short lived, I say go with the flow. It all reminded me of what a relationship was about - having a good time. It made me realize that if H and I end, there will be someone else good out there for me. It was such an eye opener. You will have such indifference to you H's crap it will do you wonders.
So like Pup said, be ready, your H will notice and want to return. I was so indifferent to H and so just wanted to breakaway with new guy that it scared the crap out of H. And to be honest if new guy didn't withdraw, I would not have stopped talking to him for H. He had his chance. But h was so jealous, wanted his wife back, etc. But I didn't care. Once I told him he just doesn't want me to be happy. He was mad and said I want you to be happy with me. Now I take it that I don't know if God's plan is to keep me with H since new guy withdrew just like that. The good thing is that you will now have the confidence to know to set the standards of how you will take your H back.
So doodles, we definitely need to talk. Our sitch are way too alike. I will set up an email tomorrow and post it to you.
