desperate...

[1853dave]

Hi Moto,

Sorry to hear how hard it is on your D... I know it hurts you. Your W probably feels guilty for initiating this and seeing her behavior... I know it doesn't make it any easier for you.

I'd be careful about the RO... I suppose she could somehow use it against you, but you might have just as much dirt on her. By now you two have established a pattern of sorts.

She still sounds somewhat ambivalent at times. This is a rough time to DB...so for now try to "do no harm" and good job on cheering up your D.

This is a very tough time for you (and your D) - I know it made me angry thinking of what my W was putting the entire family through for what seemed to be her own selfish agenda.

For what it's worth, I too have seen that same hard woman, who was for a while signing her maiden name on legal paperwork...

I'm not out of the woods yet, but things have been going much better for me lately. It's taken some time, and hopefully your situation will turn around as well.

I find it odd that she says that maybe you can get back together when it's all over?!? What in the world...???

She sounds very confused and uncertain. I think you should drop Sandi_2 a note and see what she has to say about this.

Hang in there, and support your D. My oldest is 9, and I know they're old enough to know what's happening, and she's scared. You need to let her know that no matter how this all turns out, that you'll always be there for her. Always.

Take care MotoB... This is a tough time, hopefully things get better for you very soon. Hang in there, for you and your D. And for your W...