I think you handled the exchange with your H like a damn DB pro. How thoughtful of you NOT to add to the exhausting pressure your H must have felt in revealing so much to you that night. You are brilliant.
Knowing me, I probably would have taken that golden opportunity you had and stomped all over it like some greedy child begging for more candy...but YOU handled it with great maturity and compassion. I'm so proud of you.
You and your H have turned THE CORNER...now is the toughest time. Be prepared for him to distance a little. He may feel he's said or exposed himself to much and so he may back up a teeny bit to see how it goes. You're right to give him his space to "live" with himself and his 'revelation'.
You have a great advantage here in that you've taken the time to learn how to manage (or handle) some of this insanity without personalizing it too much.
You're on your way to getting what you want. Keep up the good work. Hugs, T2
