In my case my W went legal first. She is hell bent on being self-destructive though. Completely different person entirely.

I don't know if things are salvageable or not at that point - but you don't want to get sucker-punched either.

Happened to me twice during this process. The first because I was a sucker, and the second because my lawyer was an idiot.

I have remedied both mistakes. Protect yourself.

"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."