I'm just going by what I have read in Divorce Remedy.
DR is great as a framework but do yourself a favor and do not take it as gospel.
Originally Posted By: jamesb6402
I have verified there is no draining of accounts. Again the case studies I have read in the book say loving detachment and ramp up with boundaries as needed otherwise I would simply file for divorce myself right now. Right?
Don't confuse loving detachment with being a doormat.
Originally Posted By: jamesb6402
If I start litigating, then what chance do I have for any reconciliation? She will get legal too, and then there's no point. Right?
I'm not saying litigate. Your goal should be to make her agonize over reconciling with you rather than the opposite.
What I say may not be popular or nice at times. Take it in or dismiss it but I ask you to see things from all angles. Step outside of yourself if at all possible and think about things without emotion. I am so far out of the tunnel that I can't commiserate as some can. Keep thinking.
