i am sitting here at work trying to get things done realizing this is all just too much to deal with. it seems like it one thing after another after another with her.
when you suspect them cheating is it wise to ask them straight out or just keep it bottled up?
I agree 100% on getting hard evidence, but at the same time having 2 people say something to you unprompted is pretty good evidence since it is not just your own paranoia at work here.
I suspected my wife was having an EA for months, but I didn't get any 'movement' until I had hard evidence. She reduced me to having to use surveillance techniques, but it worked, and when I confronted her with what I had she was unable to lie anymore. Until then I was just beating my head against a wall making accusations and not getting anywher with W.
Only then could we have a real conversation about what was going on. Before then she lied for a few months and acted just like your wife for the most part. However, at one point, she did admit that I wouldn't like what I saw on her phone bill, but that she just had 'friends' and was not 'doing anything'. In her mind it wasn't wrong unless she was having sex, even though her conversations with OM involved joking about Sex.
Now, M is still a mess and we are basically separated in the same house and there have been a lot of ups and downs since I caught and confronted her, but if I hadn't things would have been much worse by now (PA, moved out & headed towards D, etc).
ME/XW:47 S21, D19, S15, S14 M:21 T:26 W moved 6/10 I filed 7/10 D final 4/12 remarried 8/12 W wants to R 12/10 and 4/11 but I decline
