It just seems hard to me to want to build a friendship with someone who is violating the deepest levels of intimacy, causing you unimaginable pain through the psychological torture of gaslighting, and then who isn't thinking about you at all.
Otherwise, it sounds fine. I'd probably say "stop the affair or get out" but she will probably call you on it.
Maybe where I screwed up is not having the anger reaction... or maybe that is why W goes crazier and crazier because she wants me to blow up.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
