Quote: he basically told her that he was in NO POSITION to give her advice on what to do, that this was between her and her husband and that she needed to go to him and fix it. and don't call him (my husband) again. he said that he was that kind of friend in the past but that he could not be that kind of friend anymore
then hubby proceeds to tell me that he realized how easy it was to fall into that trap of wanting to help her, but he stopped it - and he was proud of himself for doing that. he then reiterated to me how much he despises what happened between him and his PA and he even told me that these women knew what they had to do to get him to keep near. they knew the buttons to push to make sure he stayed around, and now he hates his PA for doing that to him, because he really thought he was helping her (at first i guess) - he told me he has come to the conclusion that he was being used and that it made him feel even worse
To which God do I have to pray to have my H receive a similar illumination? That is a HUGE baby step. It is REAL INTROSPECTION!!!! AND WILLINGNESS TO ACT ON IT! But specially it is the fact that HE TOLD YOUUUU, he trusts you not to overreact or make a huge issue and he trusts you with his feelings. Sure you have HOPE!
Congratulations!
BTW, agree with the girls. Jump the man! He deserves it!
Now, seriously. You should find a good time to explain to him why you withdrew yesterday and how much you appreciate not only how he behaved with FF but the fact he told you. It does show he is trustworthy. Remember, men are very sensitive and tend to get weird ideas. You do not want your H to think it was his talking to you about FF what made you upset. It is much better to know that he is SO HOT and IRRESISTIBLE that his W had to get out of the house to avoid eating him alive!
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
