I would imagine your wife told him she was outed and he said lets cool it for a while i dont want my wife finding out.
so she comes home and is nice to you and cooks you a dinner so you think things might work out between you (that slim chance right?) but in reality she doesnt want you tracking down this other guy and she might get her feet rubbed.
but the whole disrepsect thing she rubs in your face, about other possible relationships, that might be a smokescreen to get your mind off of OM1, or she might just enjoy walking all over you.
Do you have a bunch of boxes to give her on day 89?
