Over the three years I've been here, I've seen pretty much the same reactions and statements from everyone's WAS. I was thinking it might be incredibly helpful to the newbies if we all posted standard alien/WAS script here for reference.
If anything, it helps depersonalize it and leads to detaching!
My favorite:
"I was going to do X, but since you did Y you ruined it and I'm not going to do X anymore."
This is where X is something the WAS thinks you want in terms of reconciliation or their responsibilities to you.
It's just manipulation. They weren't really going to do X, but they're trying to control your actions in some way.
What else y'all?
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
When I am actually GAL w/our boys and he says something along the lines of how unfair it is that I am doing these things with them/without him...Like I am supposed to wait while he pulls the alien outta his butt?
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
One of my favorites from my WAS is: "I am so tired of trying to make things better"... this said while she is actively carrying on an A with the OM. Uh, how is that trying???
How about this one: " I feel like i have given you many chances before" In the form of-not telling me you were unhappy or didn't like something. In the form of - not asking me why im so distant and or why im hurting so much.
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
