Ha. Silly, crazy, goofy, foggy alien. Whatta maroon.
You wait and let him squirm, and then you text back,
"Sorry, H. I wish I could help you, but unfortunately, I can't. Gotta pay the bills and take care of the kids. Hope you can figure something out."
Or something like that.
Why would you give him any money? Aren't you strapped as it is? HE made a choice, and if your $$$ was that important, he would have stayed. This is a consequence of his actions, though you shouldn't phrase it that way to him.
You owe him nothing, which is sort of how he's treating you.
Can't you see the humor? Detach...you will. Pain is a wonderful teaching tool. If you D, where does he think his money is going to come from?
Aliens *rolls eyes*.
:)SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
Serentity If he is having an MLC and PA, the other woman is probably making him feel young again or something to that effect. I believe you need to start acting young too. I believe you need to know that you are an attractive and that men desire you too. I think you need to gain your confidence back before you can think about getting him back. GAL. Be happy. Tell me what are the things you enjoy doing in your spare time? What is something you have always wanted to do but haven't?
You could look up a food pantry online and send him that information. OR homeless shelters. Or suggest he panhandle on the street.
Wait, not the third one.
I'd bet big money the cash is NOT for food. Really, wonderful FT is letting him starve? REALLY???
Not.
Manipulative.
Find a food pantry/pantries and send him that info. Refer him to a church as they might help him out. Churches are like that.
I might be tempted to buy a whole bunch of canned beans and some tortillas and send him a care package. You know, outta the kindness of my heart and all.
Don't fall for it. Let him ask the tramp for cash.
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
mac-ct I did read her sitch. No disrespect taken. I was just giving my opion. Being serious about this isn't helping her state of mind. SO i figured if you inject some laughter it might help. I dont' see what it will hurt. If he is being manipulative and evil, and you know it, call him on it. Make fun of him. Look at all the pain he is causing serenity anyway. Dont you think she needs a good laugh? But hey, its all good. Different perspectives can't hurt right? Do whatever works, is what DB is all about right?
LMAO SD you are a jewel and I loved your last post...Apparently I waited to long to answer because he just called as well...
Originally Posted By: SDFoundGirl
I might be tempted to buy a whole bunch of canned beans and some tortillas and send him a care package. You know, outta the kindness of my heart and all.
As bad as it makes me feel I know you are all right so *gulp* I will say no...
He asks because I make more then him...
I did just speak to him...
He asked where our oldest son was (at his Grandmas'),
He asked about the little one (doing just fine thanks),
He asked if I knew where his bluetooth was (trash but he doesn't know that - threw all his stuff out that he left behind the night he bailed), told him I didn't,
He asked for a hundered bucks, said I didn't have it...
He asked me how I was doing, just fine thank you,
Said he was good, good (got that the first time again thanks)...
Said he spoke to oldest this past weekend through MS (already knew that) and then he said I love you baby...
That is when my guilt kicks in
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
Boo for mind games. I hate that. He literally said I love you baby? Why would anyone say that unless he is trying to get you to melt so you will do something for him. Next time he says that, say awwww thank you and hang up lol. Leave that motza ball out there for him. LOL ofcourse you don't have to do that but hey. Be strong! Read Greatest fear again. Make yourself feel better.
Really, he loves you SO much that he snuck out like a dirty dog while you were at work?
He loves you so much that he's got something going on with a scabies-havin' tramp?
He loves you SO MUCH that he's at home with you, working to put the R on track?
I have no doubt he loves you, but that's not why he said that.
ACTIONS, not words. Words are easy and cheap. Actions speak more truth than anything.
Honey, in these types of situations, if we don't laugh, we cry. I remember long nights online here with people who were in similar situations where we'd all pour a glass of wine and find the humor in what our aliens were doing. It was a lifesaver.
Don't own his crazy.
You are not a bad person because you set a boundary and are letting your H suffer the natural consequences of his actions. Let him figure it out on his own since he's so smart.
(((Serenity)))
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
