I'm not sure about your "occurring" in regards to listening and advice, too cerebral for me perhaps. My question...
How is it that recommending a book lessens the value of what's in that book? Does the content existing in book form make it not valid? Surely you realize the concept existed before it was put in to a book, no?
I hope it is not the case, but you seem beyond help because you do not accept what many of have found to be good sources of help in this arena. Certainly any advice is debatable, but you're not sitting at the neighborhood bar talking to Joe Sixpack; these are people who have studied, and lived this material. I'm not sure you've read Michele Weiner-Davis' books at all.
Originally Posted By: TeaEarlGreyHot
[quote]...... Thank you the wonderful demonstration of one's listening as this nicely demonstrates what I was saying (though you may be unable to see it).
You saw yourself in my words, you did not like it, you got defensive and then you demonstrated exactly what I was speaking about when I wrote about one's "listening."
And how does your listening occur for me? (Read that question again, the words are written in a specific order to convey a specific intent).
How your listening occurs for me is this:
Let me see if I can find the problem and recommend a good book to (start to) fix the problem AND work on yourself
As justification of your listening, whether for me or anyone else, you proceeded to give a list of conditional recommendations (for books) based upon various situations.
