Re. the business trips, my pastor actually used the words "That scares me" when I said Dan thought strippers were annoying. He said it is scary b/c that means he requires even more at this point most likely...
The Porn is like any other addiction, the addict has to keep increasing the "drug" to get the high they are searching for. Strippers probably don't do it for him anymore because that excitement has worn off.
Sorry you and your kids are caught up in all of this, and Dan too for that matter.