I want my Monkey and Sheep Back

[beepee]

Hi Serenity,
I would love to say that but
the thing is, he doesn't want to see me, know what I mean?
Like he keeps telling me that he's terrified of meeting with me so I don't know what to say. I havent seen him since he left..Im pretty certain emailing him and saying "meet me at such and such" would come off as aggressive, no?

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Try this instead...

H,

I am going to be in the city on Friday.
Please meet me at such and such place
at such and such time.
I need my hard drive.

Thank You.

B

Remember all business and as quick and painless as possible...
(I know this is easier said then done)

PERFECT.

Puppy

[undrdg]

that works too. going dark is pretty hard to do. it is sort of like playing hard to get.
I guess i was approaching this as a "act as if" situation.
Sort of like, hey look at me, despite the fact that you treated me like crap, i am doing fantastic. Yes i can even crack jokes, cuz you make me laugh with all your hardcore seriousness.
If you have tried everything and he doesn't want to contact you at all, then screw him. No need for you to be all serious and unhappy right?

[mac-ct]

Serenity - you are spot on.

Beeps - listen to the nice lady (and PDT who isn't a lady but it sort of balances out the gender thing)

Hugs to one and all.

Mac

[The Wifey]

I would like to have my harddrive back. I will be in the city this friday and can meet you then to get it. If you prefer not to see me, I can have a friend meet instead. Please let me know what time is convenient for you. Thank you.

B




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[beepee]

D,

I am going to be in the city on Friday.
Please meet me at the ****************.
I need the harddrive back. If you prefer
not to see me, I can have a friend meet
you instead. Please let me know what time
is convenient for you.

Thank you

B



How does that sound? To the point, but also taking into account his availability..What do you guys think?

[hopeful_cb]

Beep sorry not much to add, but wanted to let you know I've been reading along and following your sitch. I am glad to see you doing better following all the emails earlier on, you sound stronger today and thats good! Keep focusing on you and you are getting some great advice here!

Undrd, I like your take on the thoughts/attitude about emails, maybe not what beep is going for in her sitch at the moment (for her to decide!) but I'll be storing those thoughts for myself for the future. Thanks.

No need for you to be all serious and unhappy right?

Right.

[mishka422]

D,

I am going to be in the city on Friday.
Please meet me at the ****************.
I need the harddrive back. If you prefer
not to see me, I can have a friend meet
you instead. Please let me know what time
is convenient for you.

Thank you

B

I like this one. It is very business like without coming off as b!tchy or hostile in any way.

Good work! You're learning. No emotion in business.

[beepee]

Thanks everyone who chimed in with fantastic advice!

undrdg: I would love to be cheery and happy in the email but considering the feud we're having at the moment, I don't think its appropriate or effective, business-like would work best I think. Maybe if we were on ok terms, it would be good but we're not. I really appreciate your input, hopefully I can reach a point with H when I can be cheery and happy with him!

hopeful: thanks for stopping by! I am feeling much better today. The only thing I hate about sending emails to H is waiting for a reponse. It just gets me so anxious but I'm not going to do it this time. If he answers, he answers, if he doesn't..well I'm going to be p*ssed because I NEED THAT HARDDRIVE!! hehe. We'll see what happens. Hopefull he doesn't take that long to respond with a decision .. ** I predict he will choose to send it to me instead of meeting me or having a friend meet him..*** But I'm going to act as if he will meet me, I won't get my hopes up if he doesn't though. I don't want to see him or talk to him, I just want the HD and be on my way.

Mishka: Thanks!! I'm learning from all the great advice you all give me here!

journaling..
packed a bunch of items but no where near close to finishing soon. I have a couple hours before the post office closes. I'm in a bit of a pickle as I cant find some of the items I have posted up for auction!! LOL. I think its all in my huge mess down in the basement. I'm not looking forward to searching for the items in all of that..it'll be a fiasco!

Anyway, it's just getting hotter and hotter and there's no AC in the house. Sweating like a pig right now. So I'm going to send that email to him now and forget that I sent it and not wait for a reply.


OH I have a quick question, he's got our marriage certificate and I need to show some proof of relationship to immigration. I don't have anything, no copy. nothing, what should I do. Should I ask him for a copy of it too?

[beepee]

We were married in Ireland by the way so it'll take a long time for me to get a copy from them.. I need it by this Friday..