I understand time frames and then I don't. I'm on the fence about them. What if the break through for you and H was supposed to happen May 30, 2010 and you pulled the cord and he knew you were serious so he gave up too?
My situation didn't start to change until I really truly acted as if. I acted as if I was POSITIVE he was going to come home. That was step one, that I could control.
The other was his addiction to his OW...which I had ZERO control. They work together and she was really just toying with him. As much as it INFURIATED me, I knew it was going no where. And I think he suspected as much too. And things came to a screeching halt in June. I didn't know they would end is such grand fashion, but they did. And fortunately, he was already trying to work on things with us. Sort of half assed at the time, mind you, but effort still. Now it's full assed! LOL!
Things were pretty bad between us. Us DBers, we don't talk too much here about what it was we did to get us to this point, but I know what I did and I regret it. Please understand, I don't like what H did during our separation, but I do believe it was truly his intention to divorce and move on. Not necessarily with this particular person, but he did want out, he did want a divorce. Now I know he's not so sure about that anymore. I've done a lot of GALing and lot of work on me. I figured if nothing else, my S would benefit with me as I made these changes.
You can do this. I think your H is very very confused and freaked out. I think he'll be home soon, if you just keep on track. It is hard, but you're doing great.
