I think that is more than feasible. Make him take the paternity leave. You know you are going to need the help.
Does he not take D any time during the week overnight? My H has to be at work at 4:30 am, so he can't take S overnight. So I told him "You have to stay here then over night twice a week. It's not fair to me you get to walk away." He yelled that he's not walking away. I said "Great then, we're agreed, what two nights? I think Monday and Wednesday." He agreed. He used to sleep in the guest room. Now, he sleeps with me. And on his weekends with S, he's still at our place....oh and weekends I have S, he's still at our place. I have NEVER pointed that out and never will.
On Monday's I have tennis. I do sometimes on Tuesdays and a friend watches S or H does. Wednesdays we do something family oriented, even if it's all piling on the couch to watch a cartoon or going out into our backyard to play baseball....
H and I have a business meeting once a week. If there's not much going on, we do it by email. We cover all the bills, and logistics for S and anything else that might be considered "logistical". That helps me to not contact him with the guise of talking about S. And it helps that when we do talk, which is more than ever lately, we talk about fun stuff, which is great.
So, yes, I'm getting results....but admittedly, I wish it were going faster. I have to warn and remind myself, this will not be done in my time.
Do you have a plan with him for when Baby #2 makes her debut?
