back after 10 weeks of recovery and need some help

[Doingitright]

Wifey..Thanks. I have read and will re-read all the details in the link you sent me. I guess it is all hitting me at once. I am not sure about things right now but i am trying to identify what changes I need to make next in my life. If I base it what my W said it would be to change jobs. It seems to be a recurring theme from her. Stop doing things for the kids and her and do something for myself. And take some chances.She really feels we need to be friends but she doesn't know how to as the husband thing keeps getting in the way.

Some of these I am just not sure about. They are definitely 180's for me. And are especially scary knowing she wants a divorce. I am the kind of guy who buy canned food and puts it in the pantry in the basement for a rainy day. So jumping jobs in the face of disaster is really scary. The key is I want to for me not for my wife. So it is all so very confusing.

Doing things for me is so hard given our $ sitch. I cant buy clothes even though I have lost 54lbs and nothing fits right. W complains about that all the time lately. I just cant b/c I am worried about paying bills and it feels so selfish.

Right now I feel like i have my head up my a$$. I cant think straight. On top of it we have her family coming over for the entire week. So now they will see we are separated...e.g. she is sleeping in another room. For all i know she may have already told them.