Going straight forward...antlers 5th thread.

[antlers]

"Just like you to turn it around and blame someone else and to take the focus off of the issue at hand. You've done it since I've known you and you will be that way as long as you live. It's who you are...manipulative."

I responded, simply, with this...

"You know as well as I do that's not accurate. My intentions are good."

Really listen and respond.

"I am neither blaming or manipulating those are your words. The issue at hand is how you speak to me in person and via txt. You do not know how I am going to be for the rest of my life, I am in charge of that. When you communicate to me in a way that is disrespectful I will let you know you are over the line with me. If you have a issue with me please let's discuss it but using profanity, mind-reading and accusing me of things I am not doing will not be tolerated. I am all open to discussing currrent topics in a mature manner."
Put this is Antler speak.

Don't tell her what "she knows," now you are mind reading. just state facts, repeat her words back to her if you get lost.

Cheers

Thanks Coach! I see what you mean! Don't tell her what she knows...no mind-reading, from either side!

She owes me some money for some insurance payments that were sent out to pay for some health care and she told me to just "pay the freakin" bill and she would pay me back. I told her I didn't feel comfortable paying a bill that the insurance company had already sent payments out on (she mistakenly cashed the checks and used them, thinking they were for overpayments on things she had going on). Anyway, she texted me...

"Oh, I see...you don't trust that I'll give you the money."


I'm workin' on a response...I do trust her, and I want her to know that I trust her. So...any help you could give me here?