Oh man it is totally difficult. It is probably the hardest thing I have ever done in my life and no doubt yours too. Do not worry about what she is thinking. That sort of behavior will get your stomach into all sorts of knots. Believe me when I tell you that once you start letting her wonder what you are thinking it will be so much more clear. Confusion is part of life. Be thankful that she came back to you. Be thankful that she is conflicted and hasn't made up her mind. Be thankful that you have the ability to show your leadership directly. My wife told me that when she asks me for advice she doesn't really want it that advice i give her, rather she just wants my POV. She has also told me that unsolicited help to "fix" things does not help as she feels dumb after.
Orich If a miracle happend overnight and your situation was fixed, how would you live your life after that? Do you think you will fall into the same old routine after a couple of years? If you found out that you only had 2 weeks to live, what would you do, even though your wife may not know?
