WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 11

[PMA_Baby!]

Time to gain the upperhand. You should file and get a custody agreement in place. Take back the control that she has been toying with you with.

Maybe if you rattle her world enough she will wake up to all the destruction she is creating.

Stay strong. Be there for your boys.

Hopefully she will wake up before it is too late.

Keep your emotions in check. These guys dont mean squat! You have the history. Figure out what you NEED and WANT.

Time to come up with your PLAN.

PMA

[confusedinpa]

What I need are her completely outof me and my boys life

I called my lawyer and am waiting I hear back to see what we can do

I'm going to play it status qui until I hear back

I am mad and am ready to fight

[Tomato]

you may "feel" that you need that now ...but rationally speaking ..that is an impossibility for proper co-parenting. You are plenty entitled to your feeling and I am not trying to negate them but ....

[PMA_Baby!]

Exactly.

Believe me. I can relate and so can many others on this board.

RATIONAL is the key word in how you should be thinking.

There is a fine line between LOVE and HATE.

Dont let your emotions cloud your judgement.

You NEED to be thinking what's best for you and your boys.

Being strong minded and having a productive Co-Parenting R with your W is what's important.

I personally think you should just cool out this week. Ignore her calls or txts. Talk to your lawyer and decide what's best for your FAMILY'S future.

Many a M has survived this an worse.

Stay strong and once again DONT let YOUR EMOTIONS CONTROL YOU.
Allow yourself time to feel the pain then cool down and FIGHT for your FAMILY if that is what you choose.

Remember your W is in a fog right now. Like you have said for the last 8 mons. "For better or worse...." this is her worst. Show her that you will help her through this by thinking RATIONALLY and do what's best for your family. Now is the time to figure out your NUTS and set BOUNDARIES.

Hold the line.

PMA

[Tomato]

now that I have looked back at what has transpired in your life over the last little while, I will be praying for your strength ...your strength to remain calm in the face of this storm. It is the devil's storm and with the Lord is where you are to take shelter for maximum safety and security. Like all storms, especially very harsh and violent one's ...it's apex will be on it's way in a flash.

You got my email skyjockey70yahoo if you care to make use of it for anything bro' and you have tons of support all around you. There are no surer hands than God's and he stands ready to catch you lest you fall bro'

Keep your wits about you just keep things as simple and as undistorted and slow as you want them to be. You and the family as a whole will get all kinds of prayer support from me and others. like in any storm ..get hunkered down for max protection..

t

[The Wifey]

So sorry PIMA! I know the feeling of betrayal and how it hurts. Work with your L, but do not let anger and bitterness swallow you whole.

BTW- I will probably leave from here to visit Strong Marvelous Woman on Tuesday and will stay there until Thursday or Friday. I could swing by on my way to NY. Find me on FB.

[Tomato]

cool that means you will be in my region ...the three of us should stage a mini - DB gathering. strength in #'s

[Tomato]

me and cipa have been trying to arrange a get together but have struck out thus far.

[The Wifey]

I can "talk" to you on FB to see if we can get together.

[Tomato]

gotcha ..guess i had better visit that silly place more often then if I wanna meet and greet the RL wifey