Just looking in on you. Reading your posts I feel so much in common. Like my husband saying our MC 'didn't help' anything....he was still having his affair so of course it didn't help when he was living a double life! That part is so true for so many of us...
I asked my Pastor and his wife yesterday, "Why do I still have the good memories and find it hard to stay closed off to him?" And his wife said, "Because you love him. You honored your part in the marriage and you didn't make the choice to leave". So I guess because you worked so hard to keep your marriage, made yourself remember the good times, it will not be easy to let that go.
Sorry I don't have more words, better words...love ya sis