Thanks Bonny! He had the kids all weekend and I couldn't talk with them at all. I tried to assume that there was no cell service where they were and that was why. (Good for my PMA) He finally called after 9:30 Sunday night to tell me they were almost home. I was pretty mad but kept it in, just said thanks and asked to talk to the kids when he started telling me about his weekend. He said they were asleep and resumed telling me what they did. I was having a little trouble understanding him with the cell reception and did not respond much. I thought he was pausing and getting ready to get off so I said, "ok then, see you pretty soon" and he said "oh, ok, I'll let you go". Told him I didn't mean to cut him off... but I would see him later.
When he got here I went out and got the kids' bag, he brought them to the door, piggyback rides and hugs. I know this is the hardest part for him (them too). I think he may have asked if he could talk to me a minute but I didn't really hear him and he didn't say it again. Started to ask if he could have them tomorrow but I said I really wanted to be able to spend some time with them. Finally said their goodbyes and headed on his way. Trying not to wonder, but a part of me does... where did he spend the night after that?
I know that even if/when he decides that he wants to consider reconciliation, he will still have lots of things to work through. So I am staying patient. Not going to call him again until he calls me. Only reason I will call him tomorrow is if he has the kids and I want to talk to them. I will not let his confusion get me down. I have seen some positive changes and reactions in him and I will focus on those and appreciate them.
