You are so right...it is amazing how scripted things sound during affairs. Of all the books I've read on infidelity and such, I swear, all the words and lines they say you will hear are the exact words my husband has said...literally word for word. The "it's not you, it's me" and the "I love you, but I'm not in love with you" It's too bad the person having the affair can't see that! But I know that his head is in the clouds right now and he feels like he's right and everyone else is wrong.
It isn't a short journey. Stay true to yourself and your marriage and keep the faith - and however things turn out they will turn out as they should. Sometimes what we want isn't necessarily what we need.
As hard as it is, being positive, putting a good face on your life, and continuing to find joy is very important to your own well being. At first we can channel a great deal of energy into withstanding the affair when we love someone - but it eventually wears you down. No matter how strong we think we are.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
