Probably not a good idea to come over to my thread today -
Down day and I actually just posted about the only thought coming through my mind is self harm
Your son is 14 - He knows what he has I am assuming and also what it entails?
These skills could be brought down to his level...
I just want him to avoid any form of self harm, self loathing etc...
I admit I was older then him when I was diagnosed (17) but I still didn't have the skills to cope with it...
Had anyone taken the time to show me instead of just feeding me pills, I may be better off today coping with the mess my life has become -
Hindsight is a you know what (I am not allowed to curse anymore)
Since he responds better one on one, take the time to sit him down, explain that while yes he has valid points (ie: "Why should I behave" when "She doesn't see that she is making me angry." So, it's a "Why is this all on me?" feeling."), he has to find a way to deal with it more constructively...
If he wants to punch something fine but it has to be a pillow or his mattress (something soft and stable) not a wall, a door, nor his siblings...
If he feels the need to rant like a maniac, then before a word comes out of his mouth, he needs to take a deep breath, count to 30 and think before he speaks...
If he can't get a handle right then and there, send him out to take a walk or two or three around the block...
It takes patience and time - I am sure you have heard that here lol - But it can be done...
It won't happen overnight...
I am still working on that daily...
It takes every ounce of self control I have not to give into it...
Every ounce I have to not pick up the blade or punch a hole in the wall or scream at anyone in my path...
He has to learn not to feed the manic monster that lives within and some days are better then others...
You seem to have an excellent head on your shoulder so I do urge you to help him through this...
If you can't, speak to his shrink, therapist, Dr. (whatever he sees) and let them know he is having a hard (perfectly normal) time dealing with all that is going on...
Please don't let them overmedicate him to help him "deal"...
Just ask for suggestions on how to help him come through this as safely and as painlessly as possible.
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
