Orich Man i know exactly what you are saying. But know this. Your wife won't love the glass handler. She will love the fearless you. There is a saying that i am using as my mantra: Do not strike the iron while it is hot Rather Make the Iron hot by Striking It.
What i mean by that is. Flirt. play hard to get. Don't let her know you are reading into everything, even tho you are. Above all else make her laugh! I was reading this book called HOw to improve your Marriage Without talking about it. This situation is exactly what they are talking about. It is your shame vs her fear. What one has to do is use your shame's power against itself. How do you do this? Write down your core values. THe things that most important to you as a human being and follow them. Always ask, is what i am about to do consistent with your core values?
Another awsome quote for ya, courtesy of the Office: When you are about to do something stupid, ask yourself this" Would an Idiot do what I am about to do? If yes, then I do not do that thing.
One more thing that i think might help, as it is helping me too: 1. Respect her 2. Listen to her 3. Express confidence in her. 4. Help her as much as u can. 5. Touch her more, but try to make it affectionate nonsexual touches. 6. Above all else, step into her pain.
