It's old and cliche, but I'm saying it anyway because it applies....One day at a time.
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I dont know how to make all the loving feelings towards him of the life we had obsolete. I dont know if you understand that. I dont want to be able to eel anything good about our life together that has to do with him. Even of years ago.
Trust me, you don't want those loving feelings to be obsolete. They are painful to think of now, but in time they will be fond memories. They will always come with a bit of pain but in time the pain of the memory will lessen. I've been able to have some moments of happiness when something happens to jog loose a memory from our life together. It's not as big a stab in the heart to know I won't ever have that again. Also, so many of those good memories will involved your children and those are happy times you never want to loose.
I'm so glad you are away on vacation in a place far enough from him to not be hit over the head by his presence so soon after the latest discovery. I'm sorry he's not calling the kids. It just shows another part of his cowardice. He knows what his kids are going to say, how they are going to act toward him and he's a scared rabbitt. Too bad for him. He's the one that will end up damaging his R with his kids. His problem. You just need to be there loving and caring for those kids even more now. The upside to expending that energy....they give the love right back.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
