Good Monday everyone. Well, I got a phone call from H on Friday saying he saw that there was another break in on our street and thinks "we" should look into a security system. I said that I didn't know if "I" could afford it... and he said we should just look at prices. Another call on Sunday where he asked how I was doing. I just acted "as if" and said all was well but we had been rushing around since we had gone out with friends...All this DB is hard! : )
@Stronger, my H and OW met at work and have been involved since March. She left her H to be with mine this summer. She has no kids and I don't think she has met mine. I have had no contact with her. I pretend she doesn't exist these days (although I've seen them together in my car since he choose to move only 3 minutes from our home) and we passed by each other on the road one day.
As far as problems in the relationship, this was pretty out of the blue. Ups and downs, yes, but not serious problems recently. I should say, we did have issues 3 years ago with internet stuff but it went away after I caught him. My understanding from him is that he wants to be independent and prove that he can live on his own. I make 2x as much as him and I put him through college so I think he has some self esteem issues. He also has issues with his parents. They would tell him what a failure he was right in front of me prior to getting married. He is also from a culture where the "man" should be bringing home the bacon if you will. Basically, he told me that he was unhappy, had been for a long time, and that it was time for him to be a little selfish. Get up whenever he wanted, go out etc. (thanks, now that we have two kids!!!). I have been doing my masters for the last three years and did not put the attention I should have on our marriage. The sad part is that I graduate on Friday and was so ready to re-focus myself to him prior to all this. I am still hopeful, but I don't know how to get him away from OW. He has a very addictive personality and I feel like he is plain addicted to her and their current lifestyle. He rented an apt. right over the pool and hangs out there a lot from what my daughter says. I just don't know how long I can maintain the DB practices. It is so hard to keep going and going and think it may all be for nothing. But, I love him and I choose to love him so here I am.
I hope everyone has a great week and thanks again for reading!
HIW
M-35 H-37 Bomb 6/09 PA/EA 3/09 Moved out 6/23/09 Married 1996 Together since 1992 (long distance relationship) met 1988
HIW M 35 H 37 D 5, D 2 Married 1996 Dating 1992 Met 1988 EA/PA started March 2009 Bomb 6/16/2009 Separated 6/23/2009
