Have you spoken to a lawyer yet, you seem like a person that hopes everything will work out and not one that goes out and get things done. (not to beat you up, I struggle with this myself). But if this happened to me, I am seeing what my legal options are right now, no way do I not see my children for that long.
It also seems you are scared of pissing her off, time to man up and grow a pair. Protect yourself and your children.
