We had a good day yesterday - we had to take S10 to camp and we all drove over together and then stopped for dinner on the way home. W was in a good mood it seemed and the level of tension was low. It seems like thngs are back to how they were leading into the OM incident last week, when I thought things were going pretty well between us. It almost felt like the level of tension was low enough where we could possibly try to be friends again. She even brought up details of her 40-mile bike ride from earlier int he morning - a topic she has said is off limits between us. I always view her willingness to talk about her training umprompted as a good sign.

The noteworthy thing that happened is that W printed out her cell phone bill and left it on the desk. I had been trying to get her to show me the detailed bill for the past 8 months and she finally did it. She didn't tell me she did it - she just left it on the desk.

It was for July, and I looked it over and only saw a few interactions with OM. Probably around 10 text messages. Some of them were back when she discovered that I was investigating his criminal record so that was the driver there.

We had a flare-up in Florida over her texting because I thought she was communicating with OM and I was right about that also. She sent him a text just before our plane left and then a couple back and forth the next day when I called her on it and the argument ensued. She is the type who will lash out when she is guilty so when I accused her of this that is what she did, but it looks like I was right.

Other than that there were some texts but only one call - the one she made when she found out I was looking into his criminal record around July 1st.

What does it all mean? I guess her ineraction with him is on the low end of what I suspected, unless she has another phone which I don't believe she does. Also, the times when she communicated with him the most were when I sensed the most distance and anger from her over the past month, and one of those times was prompted by my own behavior (investigating his CR which W figured out by digging through my email).

So, if I look at the situation two very positive movements in the past week occured - she voluntarily told me that OM showed up at her workout and she printed up her phone bill for me to see. Why would she print it? I am not sure, but I was going to thank her for doing it.

Should I thank her and leave it at that with no comments about the content? It has been a request over and over again for months. Or, is it something she should be doing anyway so I should just not say anything or at least mention that I saw it?

ME/XW:47
S21, D19, S15, S14
M:21 T:26
W moved 6/10 I filed 7/10 D final 4/12 remarried 8/12
W wants to R 12/10 and 4/11 but I decline