You are absolutely right and I know how it wears you down.
Thinking good thoughts for you tomorrow, and every day.
Thank you. Yes - it is wearing me down. I haven't really given myself the chance to stop and feel anything throughout the process which had its benefits at first but now I think I'm paying for it.
Legally? I'm in a great position honestly. Unless her psych exam comes back that she is the most mentally stable person ever I think it is safe to say that it may be a downhill battle to our trial date.
Regardless of a diagnosis or what comes out of the report, as long as it is favorable to me I've got plenty to go along with it to move forward with a strong case.
This is the strongest I will ever be legally, so I really shouldn't be worrying about that part - and I'm not. I'm a little concerned at how the evaluation will go - but that is primarily because I don't understand the process completely. I've prayed for the wisdom of the evaluator to find what is best for D1 regardless of what I or W want.
Emotionally... this is where I'm drained. Finding out more facts months, nearly a year down the road which contradicts all the gaslighting and other lying regarding my wife's infidelity is almost a re-victimization of sorts...
The lies do the damage with infidelity... when the truth comes out it causes more and more damage... long after the infidelity has been discovered.
In my case, W has no intention of being truthful unless she knows I have absolute evidence - and at this point I do in regard to everything, when it started, etc.
So I get to feel the pain again... understanding more of the truth, etc. just confirms what my perceptions told me anyway.
But it still hurts. Worst part is that W doesn't seem to realize what she is doing as she is in the fog or whatever and doesn't quite comprehend the long-term implications of anything.
I'm just numb to her at this point. What a selfish piece of work she has been this entire year.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
