My husband is so distant from me, and all he does is defend his R with OW. I don't even ask about her, but he told me yesterday that he doesn't want me to try to break them up. So I said "It's OK for her to come between us, but not OK for me to come between you and her?" He again told me yesterday that he cherishes our marriage and me as his wife...what the heck does that mean? I told him if he cherished "us" so much, we wouldn't be in the predicament we are in! I told him yesterday that I feel like he has no compassion for me. He says "if I didn't have compassion, I wouldn't be sending you all of my paychecks" So I told him that I appreciate the financial support he is giving me but it would be nice if he had some emotional support and would show me that it actually is hard for him and that he is hurting too. He said he is hurting, but after talking to him more about it, I figured out that he is not hurting because WE are breaking up, he is hurting because he has this new woman and he can't fully give himself to her because of his baggage in Illinois. So he is hurting for himself and this OW, not for me!
