Divorced what to do now

[Trixi]

Have you read Divorce Remedy? If not, run to the bookstore or library. Get it; read it. Read it again.

We all would love to have our family back, but to accomplish that, you have to do the exact opposite of what your emotions say to do.

Now that the divorce is final, you no longer have to worry about fighting the oncoming train. Take that mental energy and invest it in yourself.

Really look in the mirror and ask yourself "Would *I* want to come back to this?" If you are sad, depressed, mopey, etc, no one would want to sign up for that. Having "Desperation Breath" scares off everyone.

Now is the time to focus on YOU. What do you like to do? What are some things that make you happy? Who were you before you got married? What parts of yourself did you compromise so that you could be married?

She has a path that she is on. Your path is different right now. The paths might merge later, but for now, take this time to grow. Not being married means that you should have more time on your hands. (I know I do.) Exercise. hike. paint. take singing lessons. learn to play guitar. invite friends over. go to church. re arrange furniture. Journal to figure out who you are.

GAL GAL GAL and have PMA PMA PMA!