Not Me...Ever part 2

[Deep]

That's just another typical excuse for your H, Serenity, as others have pointed out.

Besides, life is such that hindsight is always perfect, and a fantasy one even more so! Never mind that it's purely delusional. I came across a quote I liked, from of all people Tolkien.

"Nearly all marriages, even happy ones, are mistakes: in the sense that almost certainly (in a more perfect world, or even with a little more care in this very imperfect one) both partners might be found more suitable mates. But the real soul-mate is the one you are actually married to."

And your pastor has a point - focus on the positives.

Good thoughts to you too