Thanks Mac. Your words helped me to keep things in perspective. Since I came home I haven't heard from H, not even a text to see how I am, although I know he has asked D about me. I know I should have no expectations............

Thanks for your wishes, Julia. I am making progress and I just need to be patient. Today a friend took me to lunch which was a wonderful first excursion and a lovely break from home. It was a lovely day and we sat overlooking a lake........so peaceful.

Bonny, don't forget that the kids were also there so that means H can remain somewhat passive during the visits. Nevertheless, he did join in the conversation a little, especially on the second visit. He is usually the quieter one of the two of us, anyway. The second visit he laughed and joked a lot more. Guess that's cos I was in better form, too. I kept thinking that he wouldn't have come if he didn't want to be there cos there was certainly no need to bring the kids as S drives. Now, I know he will be largely absent. His parents arrive here to visit this week so this could be an interesting time. I am very close with them and until the ow was revealed he was very close with them. However, things have been a little tense since then.

Cas