Ultimately, I would have been better off never getting involved with anyone else after my first marriage ended, concentrated on being the great father that I did become and just left it at that.
But you still wouldn't have been having sex in that scenario. Does that mean there are circumstances in which you would consider being celebate?
I don't think I read about the extent of your wife's medical issues before your last post - that is certainly a lot to deal with - for both of you.
I also don't think you told us that your wife was literate in healthy-industry speak ... that's important too.
People can only listen to what's said - when I read your posts I feel like you want me to guess all the stuff that's unsaid. I wonder if your wife feels that too?
Just a question. FWIW.
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Never make someone a priority, who makes you an option.
