I don't think I am on the DB fanclub page anymore. Due to the rules of this BB it's difficult for me to signpost you properly. I am listed under Brand New Day's friends and also Valentine's. My real name is Alison and my surname begins with an H. In my profile picture I am wearing a purple top. Hope that helps Sherlock!
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
A week today my decree nisi will be passed. Ironically it is the day before my S16s bday. I don't know how he manages it but everytime something like this clashes with an important day in my family's life.
24th Sept my court case is being heard for judge to ratify financial agreement H is trying to wriggle out of. If the judge agrees with me H will be able to apply for decree absolute on 30th Sept. Part of me still wishes this wasn't happening BUT I just need to be free of this man now (especially financially). He has begun a new family (baby due Christmas day of all days) and so I have to let him go and move on.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
Time to let the rope drop with a huge thud. Thinking of him and the whole situation will keep you stuck, thinking of how you want your life to be will move you forward. You deserve to move forward and claim the lovely life that awaits you.
hugs, kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Decided that I will talk about what happened the last couple of weekends. In a nutshell I met someone. Totally unexpected and it was instant attraction. Trouble was he decided to tell me on second meeting (and first official date) that he wants kids. He's 41 and doesn't have any at the moment. At first I thought I could handle that as all I really want right now is a bit of fun. However when I explored further with him what that might mean from his POV he was honest and said that it would probably mean that he would take other women out to see if there was any longevity there. Despite it being only second time he had met me he knew there was no longevity in it. This opened up too many wounds for me. Essentially b/c H had so many As before he finally left this is what he did to me and I can't handle that again. So it ended as quick as it started and now I'm v.v. down. It was good to feel attractive again. I will recover but am a little delicate right now.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
A, I'm very sorry to hear this. It sounds to me like you aren't really ready to date yet--too much baggage still hanging aroun from your H...not that it sounds like he is letting things settle down for you with his antics. Maybe just give the dating thing a rest for a while until you feel more detached from H?
Sending you warm thoughts and prayers.
Peace, Dawn
Me 45/H 47, no kids Together since 1985; M/1992 Bomb1 (EA-OW1, age 22) 2001 Bomb2 (EA/PA-OW2, age 22) 10/2007, A continues H left 11/24/08 minimal contact, no legal action http://tinyurl.com/DawnHope1
You are still very vulnerable right now. Please be careful. You have been through so very much. It is amazing you are still able to sit upright. You will eventually find the right person, don't be in a rush.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
